let me preface this by saying that i don’t adhere to a specific religion. i’ve toyed around with the idea of spirituality and have my own beliefs that i prefer to withhold for the sake of this post.
this morning, i found my cross from confirmation in 8th grade and decided it went well with my outfit, so i wore it to school. i thought nothing of it until people started asking me why i’m wearing a cross. working off of the knowledge that i may or may not have given them (honestly, i don’t recall) about my apparent atheism, people accused me of being disrespectful to christianity, and others made wild assumptions on my religious beliefs.
i’m not going to say i wasn’t expecting these assumptions about my spirituality. i was wearing a cross, after all. it’s an expression of religion.
but at the same time, people who assumed that i am an atheist called me out on being disrespectful. without a doubt, they would not have said a thing if i were wearing the symbol of a different religion. say, buddha was on my shirt, or a wheel with eight spokes. but a cross around my neck is disrespectful.
put a cross on a shirt, and it’s fashion. fashion a cross around your neck without proper reasoning, and it’s blasphemy.
may i also point out that i wore this exact cross throughout the summer and the first semester of school, as i explored my beliefs in christianity. during this extended period of time with the cross, i was subject to multiple occasions of blatant disrespect.
people reached down my shirt to ensure that they saw a cross on my necklace. they stared me straight in the eye, proclaiming their atheism to me. as if it were supposed to anger me. they wanted a fight over religion and an excuse to preach their hackneyed “i never bought into the jesus story" speech. the one i’ve heard a million times. the same one i’ve given a few times, myself.
i’m not even a christian, and i am sick and goddamn tired of these double standards about christianity.
i’m not allowed to "disrespect" the religion by wearing a cross when i don’t believe in it. but i’m allowed to wear ying-yang symbols or put the symbol for “ohm” onto a t-shirt; in fact, i’m culturally aware. i’m creative.
i’m not allowed to wear a cross around my neck without “asking for" a religious debate. people seek it out. i am goddamn finished with teenagers spreading hate about a religion and claiming originality. "i’m fine with every other religion, but i can’t stand christianity.” aside from the fact that what is being said is hypocritical, it’s also extremely disrespectful to say to someone with a cross around her neck. someone that a stranger would assume to be christian.
this has been a psa
tl;dr : teenagers are trying too hard to be unique and spreading hate about things they don’t need to spread hate about. they are also extremely rude.